Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Introducing.... Hamiltorah!

This summer at Camp Ramah in the Berkshires, I had the great privilege to teach a course called "Hamiltorah" ("חידושי הלמ''מ") -- passages from the Torah and rabbinic literature that illustrate themes from the remarkable musical "Hamilton."  You can find the source sheets at http://bit.ly/hamiltorah .  I created this class together with my friend and co-teacher and great Hamilton fan Hope Levav.  Topics (in Hamilton, and in this curriculum) include the qualities of a leader, leadership transitions, conflict resolution, responses to disaster, sibling rivalry, and planning for the future.

The Judaism Balancing Act

The Judaism Balancing Act
adapted from Rabbi Scheinberg’s comments on the 2nd day of Rosh HaShanah 2015


A little more than 50 years ago, some American theater producers were trying to create a new play about about the Jewish experience in Eastern Europe.  This play - hopefully to be Broadway-bound - was to be based on the short stories of the Yiddish writer Sholom Aleichem, and it was to be a musical.  It was felt, though, that the original name of the story series - ‘Tevye the Dairyman’ - would not capture the attention of american audiences in the 1960s.  Just a few weeks before rehearsals were supposed to begin, they still hadn’t figured out the title.  They generated a long list of potential names, including “A Village Story,” “Make a Circle,” “Once There Was a Town”:“To Light a Candle,” “Three Brides and a Man,” “Homemade Wine,” “Not So Long Ago”.  
The playwright, Joseph Stein, thought that they should choose “Where Poppa Came From.” But the show’s producer, Hal Prince, thought that the name should indicate that the play is a musical. Just a couple of months away from the opening, Stein said to Prince, “You just choose anything. I don’t even care anymore.”  Prince looked again at the list and chose “Fiddler on the Roof.”  Stein responded:  “But what does that even mean!??”  But the decision had been made.


The title “Fidder on the Roof” had nothing to do with the Sholom Aleichem stories about Tevye the Dairyman; rather, it had to do with the artwork of Marc Chagall, another major influence on the musical; there are two Chagall paintings that show fiddlers on rooftops, and one of them shows a huge fiddler straddling two different roofs, one foot on each roof.  (By the way, there is no particular Jewish tradition for people to play violins on the roof.  Some believe that Chagall’s inspiration for painting fiddlers on the roof was that he had an eccentric uncle who played the violin on the roof.)

The title was chosen out of frustration with everything else on the list.  But in retrospect, no one can doubt that it was clearly an inspired choice that was key to the musical’s success.  The title evokes joy and music, and also precariousness, balancing Tevye’s desire to stay faithful to the traditions of his ancestors and to appreciate his daughters’ new and different ideas of what the world could be.  Tevye tries to take some tentative steps to live with one foot in the world of traditional Judaism  and one foot in modernity, like Chagall's violinist with one foot on one roof and one foot on another.


Fiddler on the Roof is not history.  It romanticizes shtetl life that was so often impoverished, obscurantist, and bleak.  It was created by and large by secular Jews who admired Jewish tradition enough to be nostalgic about it, but not enough to actually want to do Jewish things in their own lives.  As a result, the tremendous popularity of Fiddler on the Roof led many to understand Jewish tradition as something that you would only undertake out of a sense of Eastern European nostalgia and not because any of these traditions are actually meaningful. (Many of us may have had the frustrating opportunity to meet people who think they really understand Judaism because they saw Fiddler on the Roof, and let’s just say that a little bit of knowledge can be a dangerous thing!)


But there is one thing that Fiddler on the Roof absolutely got right:  that being Jewish is, and has always been, about keeping your balance.  

Friday, September 9, 2016

Rosh HaShanah sermon from September 2001

As we approach the 15th anniversary of 9/11, I am posting my remarks to my community in Hoboken NJ on Rosh HaShanah 2001, exactly one week after the attacks.
יהי זכרם ברוך - 
may the memories of those who were murdered on that day always be for a blessing.

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The High Holiday services are among the most important opportunities for any rabbi
to share a vision and a message and words of inspiration with the Jewish community.
As soon as one High Holiday season begins,
I start thinking about what topics I’ll want to address the following year.

And whereas I am often the kind of person who works down to the wire, this year I was concerned because, as many of you may know,
my wife is pregnant, and her due date is on the 2nd day of Rosh HaShanah.
So I was faced with - what I thought at the time was - a real crisis -
that perhaps I wouldn’t be able to be present for Rosh HaShanah services
if she delivered exactly on time,
so I did a significant amount of work on my sermons
well in advance.

Let me tell you that every single thought I was going to share with you this High Holiday season
had to be radically transformed
in the light of  -- of --
well, we don’t even know what to CALL it.
The ‘disaster’?   The ‘tragedy’?  The ‘attack’?
These are mere words that cannot account for one ten-thousandth of what we are feeling right now.
In Israel for the past year, they refer to what is essentially the terror-war being waged by the Palestinians
as המצב ha-matzav - “the situation.”
It’s a conscious understatement, knowing that referring to it as “the disaster” or “the tragedy” will end up reducing those terms.

Every single time we look across the river
we will see the view that for some of us is one of the reasons why we moved to this area --
and we will see the gaping holes
that will remind us the pain and horror of this week.
A pain and horror that has affected everything about our lives -
from the gaping holes that now exist in so many families
to the increased levels of anxiety and tension
that have existed this week in every single home,
in every single family, every single relationship.

Almost wherever we are in Manhattan,
we are habituated to using the World Trade Center to orient us -
to help us figure out which way is north and which way is south.
Like many of us here, there have been so many times that I’ve gotten hopelessly lost in New Jersey
And only known which way ‘home’ is
by looking for the tops of those towers and then making an effort to drive in their general direction.

"May you always think of compromise...' ? (Parashat Shoftim)

When I officiate at a wedding, at the ketubah signing or bedeken, I typically encourage the parents to bestow blessings upon their children.  Often, the parents read a blessing in English that I gave them to read.  And one of the lines in that prayer is:  “When you speak with your beloved, may you always know the joy of companionship.  When you see each other, may your eyes be filled with wonder at the miracle of your love.  When you disagree, may you always think of compromise.”

You may have noticed that the word “compromise” is a funny word.  I wondered:  what’s its etymology?  It has the word “promise” in it, so it  sounds like it means “promise together.”  I looked it up, and that’s exactly what its etymology is.  The original meaning of the word “compromise” is a promise that is made by two disputants, at the same time, that they will abide by the decision of someone else who is acting as the arbiter of their dispute.

The word “compromise” is also unusual in that it is not easy to tell whether it’s a word with a positive valence, or a negative valence.  On the one hand, when we say, “when you disagree, may you always think of compromise,” the word “compromise” sounds like something wonderful, that that solves conflicts, that encourages agreement and harmony.

But the word “compromise” also has a dark side - like if we say “He had to compromise his principles,” or “She was found in a compromising position,” or “the situation necessitated a moral compromise.”  In all these contexts, ‘compromise’ sounds like something horrible, something you would never want to do if you’re an ethical or principled person.

The Torah portion of Shoftim, from the end of the book of Deuteronomy, has something important to say about compromise, and when we ought to seek compromise, and when we shouldn’t.

The best known line from the beginning of that torah portion is tzedek tzedek tirdof - “Justice, justice shall you pursue.”  One of the first things you probably notice about this verse is that the word tzedek - “justice” - is repeated twice.  This leads all the commentators to ask the question:  What do we learn from its repetition twice?  In the Talmud, Tractate Sanhedrin (page 32b), there is a discussion of why the word is repeated twice, and one suggestion is echad le-din, ve-echad lif’sharah.  The first time that the word tzedek is mentioned, that means that you should follow strict justice and should be strongly principled.  The second use of the word tzedek refers to psharah, compromise. 

Then the Talmud goes on to present some scenarios.  Two camels are approaching each other, in opposite directions, on a narrow mountain pass, and they can’t both get through.  Someone’s going to need to back up so that the other one can get by.  Or another scenario:  two boats are approaching each other, in opposite directions, in a narrow canal, and one boat will need to back up so the other can get by.   Sometimes it’s clear which one should back up and defer to the other.  For example, if one boat is full, and one boat is empty, it makes sense for the empty boat to back up, and defer to the boat that is full of people or cargo. 

But sometimes the two boats, or the two camels, are both ‘in the right,’ and there’s no obvious choice which one should defer to the other.  In such a case, if you adopt the perspective of strict justice, they both will stay exactly where they are, and neither one will back up, and you have gridlock.  Because of their strong adherence to principle and to justice, neither boat gets where it’s going.  The only way they will actually get where they are trying to go is if they develop some kind of compromise - for example, one camel, or one boat, backs up, allowing the other camel, or boat, to proceed, and then if necessary gives some kind of small compensation to the one who backed up, so everyone is happy (or happy enough).

The medieval commentator Rashi wrote on this section in the Talmud, tzedek din shelach ve-tzedek psharah shelach, lefi re’ot einecha, ve-lo tirdof et ha-echad yoter mei-chavero.  “You shall pursue justice when it’s appropriate, and pursue compromise when compromise is appropriate, and you shouldn’t pursue one of these more than the other.”  In other words, if you are finding that you are always compromising, you may not be sticking strongly enough to your principles.  But if you are finding that you are rarely compromising, then you need to show some more humility.

Sometimes it’s the people who are most deeply principled, who are the most passionate about a cause, and who burn with a passion for justice, who are the hardest to get along with.  Sometimes they have such a strong sense of right and wrong that they have difficulty accepting other people’s point of view, they have problems with anger, and they are generally less effective at promoting their agenda than people who have an easier time reaching a compromise.  And then at the same time, people who are willing to compromise all the time are equally unappealing; they either resemble doormats, or they resemble politicians who have no principles and are willing to say anything to get elected.  (Not that I will admit to having have anyone specific in mind in our American political culture today who embodies either of these paradigms….)  But clearly our political culture is getting more and more polarized, as more and more votes in congress or in state and local legislatures take place strictly along party lines or faction lines, and it becomes rarer and rarer for people to reach across the aisle. and forge alliances or build bridges with natural adversaries.)  And sadly, Israel has also weathered several crises in recent years that have highlighted the difficulties of cross-faction cooperation there as well.

In our personal lives, and in national life in the United States, in Israel, and throughout the world, we pray that leaders will embrace the wisdom of the Talmud, that a recipe for justice involves echad le-din ve-echad lif’sharah, finding the right balance between unyielding attachment to principles, and a willingness to consider compromise.

Friday, August 19, 2016

What did you learn at Jewish summer camp? (Parashat Va-et'hanan)


I returned home this week after spending a few weeks as a Jewish educator and rabbinic resource at Camp Ramah in the Berkshires. And greeting me on my return is the Torah portion of Va'ethanan, which reminds me of some of the value of learning about Judaism at summer camp. 

The Torah portion of Vaethanan has been described as the 'greatest hits collection' of the torah.  This torah portion includes numerous well-known passages including the second retelling of the ten commandments, and verses quoted in the Torah service and in Aleinu.   But most famous of all is the Shema, which affirms our belief in one God and our commitment to perform various mitzvot as a way to keep this central teaching at the forefront of our minds.

One of the Hasidic masters, Menachem Mendel of Kotzk, made a perceptive comment about one verse in this paragraph, that reminds us of an element of the core mission of Jewish learning in a summer camp context. The verse says, 'vehayu hadevarim ha'eleh, asher anochi metzav'cha hayom, al levavecha.'   “These words that I command you this day shall be upon your heart.”

The Kotzker Rebbe noted the unusual construction in this verse: let these words be 'upon' your heart. Wouldn't we have expected that the words would actually be 'in' our hearts rather than simply 'upon' them?

The Kotzker answers his own question:  certainly the ideal is for the words of torah to be within our hearts. But sometimes our hearts are closed -- so our strategy should be to pile the words of torah upon our hearts, so that at the moment our hearts open, the words of the torah will slip right in.

I see two applications of this teaching to Jewish education at a Jewish summer camp like Camp Ramah.  Many of the campers learn about Jewish tradition intensively during the year in their schools and synagogues and at home. But it is at camp that they live in a Jewish communal environment and they experience Judaism as the normative basis for the community. For many campers and staff members, camp is as close as we come (outside of Israel) to experiencing Jewish tradition on its 'home turf,' as it were. For many of us, camp is where we learn the value of an entire community observing shabbat, or where we learn to interact Jewishly with the beauty of the natural world.  And as a result, for many campers (and staff members), it is at camp that our hearts are most truly 'open' to more fully incorporate the Jewish teachings we have learned over the years.  

And similarly, there are insights that our campers learn at camp that truly enter their hearts at other times, later on in their lives when their hearts are open to those teachings.  As a Ramah camper for many years, I learned so much about Jewish tradition, Jewish life, the Torah and Israel, and periodically even today I realize that these teachings are still entering my heart, as I undergo new life experiences that cause me to think again about what I learned at camp.  

As the summer draws towards its conclusion, I pray that the hearts of the campers I worked with (and all those who attended Jewish summer camp this summer) will be open to Jewish teachings in new ways as a result of their camp experience. But we know that the true and full impact of this summer will be felt only in the future, as their hearts grow ever more open, as they gradually understand more fully what they have experienced this summer.

Friday, June 17, 2016

Prayer at Hoboken's vigil in memory of those murdered in Orlando

My closing prayer at the Hoboken vigil on Wednesday evening June 15, in memory of those murdered in Orlando:

I invite you to join me in praying to the Source of Life.
Our various communities know you by many different names,
but on this we agreed: we learned from You to treasure life.
We learned from You that to take a life is like destroying the entire world,
and to save a life is like saving the entire world.
Dear God, Our heart breaks for 49 precious lives
cut short because of who they were and who they loved.
Where they gathered was supposed to be their safe space.
In their memories, help us to make a safe world.

Help us to make a safe world for our brothers and sisters who are gay and lesbian and bisexual and transgender, who so often are targets of hatred and oppression and violence, so many of whom feel unsafe even in the best of times, let alone today.

Help us to make a safe world for our brothers and sisters in this country who yearn simply to live their lives, to work, to travel, to celebrate, without fearing that they could suddenly become the randomly chosen victim of hatred and violence, whether motivated by extremist religious ideology, or mental illness, or anything else.

Help us to make a safe world for our brothers and sisters who practice Islam as a religion of love and generosity, those who condemn violence and courageously stand up to extremism.

Help us to make a safe world for American schools, neighborhoods, workplaces, and homes where the rates of gun-related deaths and injuries so far exceed that in every other industrialized democracy -- Help us to affirm that this country can do better and can be safer.

Help us to make a safe world for the values that represent our country and our traditions at their best, values often under attack in our world:   values like love, tolerance and respect, reverence for life, generosity and compassion, freedom, and peace.

Help us to bring the day
when all people shall realize that we have not come into being to hate or to destroy.
We have come into being to praise, to labor, and to love.
In memory of those whose lives were cruelly cut down,
Help us to work together for the fulfillment of the Biblical promises:
  ונתתי שלום בארץ ושכבתם ואין מחריד --
‘I will bring peace to the land,
and you shall lie down and no one shall terrify you.’  (Leviticus 26)
and
וישבו איש תחת גפנו ותחת תאנתו ואין מחריד -
’All shall sit under their own vines and their own fig trees, and no one shall make them afraid." (Micah 4)

Wednesday, June 15, 2016

In memory of the murders in Orlando


This is the note that I sent to the United Synagogue of Hoboken community following the Orlando murders.
Dear friends,

Our community, country and world are reeling after the tragic events in Orlando on Sunday morning.  

Many of us are looking for a way to express our outrage at the murders in Orlando and to express solidarity with the families of those who were murdered, and with the LGBT community throughout the world that is disproportionately a target for hatred and violence.  
We are all invited this evening (Wednesday June 15) at 7:15pm to participate in a vigil on the steps of Hoboken City Hall, with the participation of Mayor Zimmer, the Hoboken City Council, community clergy, and members of the LGBT community in our local area.   (See http://patch.com/new-jersey/hoboken/hoboken-jersey-city-mourn-orlando-shooting-victims-vigil-set-tuesday-night

I look forward to participating in this ceremony representing Hoboken's Jewish community.

The following are some of my personal thoughts after this tragedy and at this time of challenge in our nation.  

Among my responses at a time of tragedy in the world is to pray -- to pray for comfort for the bereaved, to empathize with those who are mourning beautiful lives cut short, to express gratitude for acts of heroism that saved lives, and to pray for courage and wisdom for communal and governmental leaders.  Some belittle prayer at a time like this, implying that prayer gives us the satisfaction of feeling like we are responding to tragedy while actually accomplishing very little to solve current problems.  Indeed, there are people who use prayer as an evasion of responsibility.  But sometimes prayer is the most appropriate response in the immediate aftermath of a tragic situation. Prayer allows us to communicate our solidarity with those enduring a terrible experience, to reaffirm and recommit ourselves to our deepest values, and to reaffirm our vision of what a perfected world would look like.

However, prayer may be a necessary response, but it is not a sufficient response to this or any other tragedy.   In our tradition, prayer and study are supposed to lead to tangible action.  It's our responsibility to take reasonable steps to bring our world ever closer to a world of peace, of the fulfillment of the Biblical vision וישבו איש תחת גפנו ותחת תאנתו ואין מחריד -'All shall sit under their own vines and their own fig trees, and no one shall make them afraid." (Micah 4)  Our prayers remind us that we must regard our world's current level of violence as unacceptable.

Some see the Orlando massacre exclusively through the lens of Islamic extremist violence. Others see it exclusively as a problem of the easy availability of guns in the United States.  Still others see it exclusively as a manifestation of homophobia.  Others see it exclusively as a mental health tragedy.  My sense is that it is all of these, and those who look at this horrific situation through the lens of just one of these factors -- or who seek to exclude one of these factors from the discussion -- will misunderstand the tragic events and will not be able to take steps to make our world and community safer.  The truth is:  too many people in the world are poisoned by the ideology of violent radical Islamism - even if this is only a tiny percentage of Muslims in the world and in the United States, the overwhelming majority of whom are no less peaceful than any other human being. (See www.orlandostatement.com for a statement by a broad range of American Muslim leaders about this and other acts of religiously motivated violence. ) And the truth is: numerous religious traditions have for too long legitimated oppression and violence against gays and lesbians and people who are transgender.  And the truth is:  it is far too easy for dangerous people (whether motivated by radical ideology, or mental illness) to get their hands on dangerous weapons in the United States, leading to rates of gun deaths that are completely out of scale with those in other industrialized democracies.  The tragedy of Orlando results from all of these factors.   

We may not agree with each other about how to make our world safer, but we do not succeed by demonizing entire large groups of people.  Jews know too well the sting of being treated as the source of all of society's ills.  Many of us know the famous injunction of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov:  "The entire world is a very narrow bridge -- but the most important thing is:  do not be afraid."  Rebbe Nachman's words are paradoxical:  the first half says that our world is fearsome, but the second half says that we must not permit ourselves to respond primarily with fear.  Fear is a distorting emotion that all too often keeps us from being compassionate, and sometimes leads us to exacerbate the very problems we are trying to solve.   

In the immediate aftermath of tragedy, our tradition counsels that we can be most helpful simply by being present; this is part of the wisdom of the shiva mourning period that encourages us to be present for those who are bereaved. We pray that the words and the gatherings, locally and around the world, in response to this horror will help those who are bereaved, and those in the LGBT community who feel especially vulnerable this week, to know that they are not alone, because a whole world stands with them.

In the words of the prayer for peace that we regularly recite in our community:
May we see the day when bloodshed ceases,
when all people shall realize that we have not come into being to hate or to destroy.
We have come into being to praise, to labor, and to love.  
In memory of those whose lives were cruelly cut down,
may we work together with God for the fulfillment of the Biblical promise:
 ונתתי שלום בארץ ושכבתם ואין מחריד --
'I will bring peace to the land,
and you shall lie down and no one shall terrify you.'  

Shalom,

Rabbi Rob Scheinberg


(pictured:  the American flag and pride flag, flown at half mast in front of Hoboken City Hall, June 2016)
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